Wood as Restraint

My favorite thing about wood is that it's one of the cheaper methods to restrain a boy. Not to misrepresent how valuable the skills of a refined woodworker are, slapping together a workable piece can be fairly easy if you're not looking for a clean, aesthetic piece. From building a set of stocks, to a bondage box, to converting a closet to a bondage space, you can whip up something functional with a small bit of practice.

Updates and Upgrades

Since the primary function of this blog is to be somewhat educational - whether introducing men to new ideas, or encouraging responsible play - I felt there needed to be a few new features added. I've added new sections to the right - "Dick's Picks" and "Kinky Comrades" - to provide some guidance on a starting point. The former is a grouping of posts I feel are particularly significant for some reason or another, and the latter is a list of blogs belonging to people I either respect, call friends, or both. At any rate, I hope the new additions are helpful!

BSDM Checklist

Let's face it: kinky sex can be immeasurably complicated. Even with a large amount of conversation, it's very possible for some things to slip through the cracks. As a general rule of thumb, interests fall into certain categories; impact play, objectification, sensory deprivation, etc. Each of these categories include a number of varied activities. While - again, generally speaking - interests tend to span multiple activities within these subsets, the inverse is not always true; due to how psychological issues develop, hard limits don't always follow such correlations. And for newbies, you also can't express lack of interest in something you don't even know is "a thing."

In individual scenes this usually isn't too big of a deal as if something comes up the scene can be ended quickly without much harm. Even if we're not talking about going so far as pathological fear, there are still some things that are just such huge turnoffs that they can ruin a scene past that point. To avoid this in all circumstances - playcation or otherwise - there are BDSM Checklists/Surverys. In addition to having the ability to quickly call attention to anything that should be avoided, it forces you to think about circumstances or activities that might have not even occurred to you previously. This can be useful both for finding new scenes to try and realizing what might be out of your range of comfort, so it favors both expansion of interests and protection of boundaries.

There are a lot of forms like this on the internet but many are either poorly formatted or not customizable, so essentially you would have to print it off, fill it out by hand, scan it, and send it. This form is in PDF format, and allows you to edit as you go. Personally, I find this even more valuable so you can modify the answers should any of your interests change over time. Once completed, you can either print it off to have it on hand, or send it via email to a potential playmate. It can be a bit grueling to analyze a completed form due to the length, but if you focus on the extreme pros and cons it's apt to lead to a smoother scene.

Watersports

Over the last few years my interests have began to drift from bondage to power exchange. I've touched base on a number of things regarding degradation in this blog before, but I've yet to showcase watersports.

It's not something I've ever had any particular interest in, since it's just a symbol that's never really clicked in my head. That being said, there are some circumstances where a guy just looks so .. susceptible to being pissed on. The first time I thought of it in that sort of light was when discussing a scene that would end with me having a chain collar padlocked to a hook in a cement floor. He was particularly into watersports, and the idea of being that helpless and violated by being pissed on actually became appealing. Since then I've found a few similar photos that have made me think about it the same way.

Reader Request

Working on this again. Added a list of blogs, going to have another section added soon for suggested reading, etc. In the meantime, I had a request from a reader for a post about me being tickled.

Well, about a year ago I met up with a guy visiting from Houston. I'd been in chastity a few days at that point and, to ensure I was properly tormented, we had an agreement that the first 30 minutes of the scene would be non-stop abuse before my cock was let out. The footage is cut considerably, and it was a good bit longer than that. One hell of a good time. Apparently my bud uploaded it so you can't embed, but here's the link to the first vid of 5.

VagabondageBoy's Tormented Feet - Part 1 - XTube Porn Video - procrustesus

Feedback

I've been neglecting the blog a bit in part due to a temporary sexual lull and in part due to more projects around the new apartment. In the last week or so I've had a few more vanilla boys than usual contact me after checking out the blog. Most of it is things people have been curious about but not too familiar with, but some have mentioned finding completely new interests.

It makes me really happy to hear about guys who are considering a broadening of their horizons, and I feel guilty not keeping up the blog as much as I should. I do want to take a second in the continued lull to say the following:

Be confident in your curiosities and don't let haters get you down. There are plenty of people who are warm and welcoming, and any who aren't should be shelved and forgotten. Or to put it in a more cliche fashion: those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter - words so true even a child can understand.

Creatively Used Cages

Cages can be hot from a number of angles; degradation, captivity, kenneling for pup play, etc, but they've never really done much for me in and of themselves. I think mixing cages and watersports or some other activity that the sub has no choice but to endure due to the confined space could be wicked hot, but the bondage pig in me wants more restrictive storage.

That being said, the bondage pig in me LOVES that there are dozens of tie-points and potential positions depending on the dimensions of a cage. Here are a few that I can't even glance at without getting rock-hard. One of the hotter concepts here is having part of your body outside the cage, almost tauntingly.

Beginner's Bondage Kit

I've bought a lot of gear in my day, as most have seen from my personal photos. One thing I've learned is that some gear, however hot it is, will sit in your closet collecting dust and only get used every tenth scene or so. While this is fine for more advanced players who may have more scripted/sculpted scenes, a beginner should strive for versatility so they can find what works, what doesn't, and where to go from there.

The gear listed after the jump will cost about $540 pre-tax/shipping (or just over $600 if you get two collars to use for restraints). It might take a few months to scrape up the cash, but once you do you'll have a gear collection that's adaptable enough for a slew of scenes - both private and public - and which will last for years.

Neglect and Vanilla Boys

I've been INCREDIBLY busy with moving to a new apartment, and now that I'm FINALLY settled in it's IML weekend. I wanted to take a moment to comment on the event.

Most people involved in the fetish community even remotely are familiar with International Mr. Leather, a group that comprises a good portion of my readers. Unfortunately, a good portion of people are nervous to attend such a large event. If you're in Chicago, come by and pay $5 for a single day pass to the vendor's mart. It's cheaper than a movie, and even if you AREN'T curious about kink you might still learn something useful.

Most booths are very hands-on, and it's good to be able to see things first-hand. Even if things don't particularly pique your interest, you never know when the information be useful - especially with future partners. If relationships are about compromise, the more you're aware of the more likely you will be to satisfy a partner.

Duct Tape

Since the roommate and I have been "busy" packing, I've been finding it incredibly hard to resist the temptation to play with the tape. I've actually always wanted to do a packing tape mummification; seems like it may be more rigid than duct tape. Regardless, duct tape is still a really fun medium for bondage in the right circumstances.