Try it 'til you like it.: Caged CBT

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

A few months back, colobondageboy sent me a video of him tied in a cage. Immediately after watching it, it became one of my all-time favorite vids. Everything about it strikes a special chord with me: ankles and knees being strapped to the sides of the cage leaving his balls 100% vulnerable, hot-ass straightjacket, and heavy hood which is tied to the top of the cage to keep him from bending over to protect himself with his arms. This video alone is enough to make me want to get a cage. Needless to say I lost count of how many times I jerked off to this vid within a week or two of him sending it. I had the good fortune to bump into him at MAL and was given permission to share the video here. I'm sure many of you will enjoy it as much as I have.

Dick's Picks

Basics

Why Bondage? - confused or appaled by kink? Here's some food for thought as to why it's more intimate and fulfilling than you might have expected.

Confidence and Pride - a look at why kink is okay.

Kink and Anxiety - thoughts on being mindful of those trying to become a part of something.

Beginner's Bondage Kit - all the basics you need to handle a wide variety of scenes.

Getting Involved - some tips on where and how to find local kinksters.

Try it 'Til You Like It - the philosophy, explained.

Relationship Models - why it's important to discuss rules governing your relationship with your partner instead of assuming traditional rules.

For Doms

The Importance of Timing - information on how training through immediate corrections can yield results delayed punishment may not.

Types of Humiliation - two different classes of humiliation, examples of each, and a comparison of the versatility of both.

Protecting Your Boy - some things to keep in mind (or be prepared for) before engaging in public play.

Creating Devotion in an Unwilling Sub - a more advanced topic, this post discusses using operant conditioning to control a boy who, in the moment, doesn't wish to be controlled.

For subs

BDSM Checklist - get to know yourself a bit better with this checklist of BDSM-related pursuits.

Negotiating a Scene - some pointers on ensuring you and whomever you're playing with are able to have a good time.

Levels of Trust - a look at different degrees of trust one might have in a play partner and how that trust impacts scene negotiation.

Safewords - my own personal approach to scenes and justification as to why I take such a controversial approach.

Stories

Helplessness - my recounting of one of the hottest scenes I've ever had, and a shining example of "you get what you wish for."

My Favorite Mindfuck - an example of why operant conditioning (à la Pavlov’s Dog) can be adapted in a scene to really screw with a boy's head.

Control is Best When Stolen (Day 1) - a fictional tale about being abducted and forced into submission at a leather event.

Control is Best When Stolen (Day 2) - the saga continues as our victim is awoken by a gag being thrust into his mouth.

Try it 'til you like it.

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Caged CBT

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